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Saturday, December 25, 2010

Maybe then I will believe in your God...


The site was an encamped caravan. The desert wanderer and a much beleaguered rabbi who had made the mistake of engaging this bedouin tramp in a religious discussion.

"How can you not believe in God?" exclaimed the Rabbi. "Look at all there is around you."

"I did not say I do not believe in God, but only that there is no evidence of him. I say to you, if he does exist, he does not work hard at letting us know it. There is even less evidence that he cares for us."

"But the Scripture says...," sputtered the rabbi.

"The Scripture! Forget what is written. If there is a God, then let him come down here where we are. Let him live in this filthy place where we live. Let him smell the stink, let him feel the poverty, let him know pain, let him see the hunger...let him feel the hunger. Let him know what it is to eke out an existence in the wretched poverty. Let him see a friend die, feel the agony of loss, the unfairness of death. Let him know what it is to watch a little child die and see him taken from his mother's arms for burial. Let him see our diseases, the twisted feet, the sockets of blind eyes. Let this God of yours be hated, jeered, cheated, robbed! Let him lose everything he owns at the hands of the wicked. Let him be dragged before a court of law, as was I. Let him discover firsthand how unjust justice really is!"

The bedouin's vehemence grew as he continued. "And sin! He is so interested in whether or not I sin - let him feel my temptation. Let him experience my weaknesses. Then let us see how he feels about all the rules and commands he has put on me - rules I cannot live up to, yet if I do not live up to them," the bedouin snarled, "he will not like me anymore!"

"Let him feel what I feel, here in this miserable aching, decaying body of mine! And then, let him die! Yes, let him die the way I will probably die, like most wanderers die, out here alone. Homeless, uncared for, forsaken, forgotten! If he wants to impress me, let him become like me. Then maybe I will believe in your God...but not until then!"
~Gene Edwards in The Birth (An awesome view of Christ's birth from the perspective of angels looking down upon and participating in the scenes)


May you believe more deeply in the One who felt our temptations...  experienced our weaknesses...Who smells the stink, poverty, and pains of this world.

To Him be all glory! And may peace reign in your heart...because you know a God who knows...

Merry Christmas!

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Friday, December 24, 2010

Labor pains


 Christmas Eve...within 24 hours, Mary, you will give birth to the Most High. What was said of your life has and will come to pass...the Promise (not just to you, but from the beginning of time) was true and is now being fulfilled.


Amazing...

But perhaps that doesn't alleviate your discomfort in these moments...
  • The discomfort of riding a donkey while 9 months pregnant...
  • The discomfort of being away from family and familiar, "homey" environments...
  • The discomfort of your water breaking, contractions starting, and watching your betrothed run frantically from door to door trying to find a place for you to have this baby...
  • The discomfort of laying on prickly straw...
  • Painful contractions coming ever closer together...
  • The discomfort of looking at Joseph's helpless face...and the stench of the stable making your already nauseous stomach intolerable...
  • The discomfort of delivery without drugs, or doctors, or sterile environments...
  • The oddity of holding a seemingly helpless and vulnerable God, made flesh as a newborn, in your arms...
 My discomforts seem hardly to compare.

Did you scream in pain? Were you cognizant that God was being born into the world? In the midst of the excruciating discomforts of your current reality, did you have second guesses about saying "Yes" to this audacious request to bear the Son of God? Did you look at the vulnerable little baby and ponder, "How is this the Wonderful Counselor, Almighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace?" To what degree were you aware of the immensity of this moment?

Thank you Mary.

Thank you for saying yes. Thank you for consenting to Loving God's request. Thank you for being obedient despite the discomforts of all you endured - not just physically in delivering a child, but in all the scandals, naysayers and pointing "shame on you" fingers you endured.

Two millenia later, I feel loved by you, strengthened by your example, encouraged to hold fast in my own reality of discomforts - real or perceived. What is the "more" that is transpiring in the midst of what feels painful? Lord, what are you birthing in and through me and my life? Will I say yes? I want to say "yes!"

"All we could ever imagine, could ever hope for He is. He is the wise royal Counselor who fills us with wonder, who holds the tangled storylines of history and will one day bring true understanding between all individuals and nations. He is the God of Might, whose power can accomplish any and every task His holiness demands. His power we need not fear for He is also the Father Eternal who is tenderness itself and who is ever motivated by His everlasting love for His children. Finally, He is Prince of Peace whose first coming has already transformed society but whose second coming will forever establish justice and righteousness. Al this and infinitely more, alive in an impoverished baby in a barn.

"That is what Christmas means - to find in a place where you would least expect to find anything you want, everything you could ever want."
~Michael Card, in The Promise: A Celebration of Christ's Birth

 For reFlection:
  • In the midst of your Christmas preparations and celebrations, are you encountering discomforts?
  • What are you "wishing for" as you celebrate Christmas tonight and tomorrow? I.e. What is the "Everything you could ever want?" 
  • How might you find the "more" God might be birthing in and through you even in the midst of your discomforts?
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Thursday, December 23, 2010

We have so little to do with Christmas...



"Nothing is more repugnant to capable, reasonable people than grace."
~John Wesley

"Luke and Matthew go to great lengths to demonstrate that we - with our power, generosity, competence and capabilities - had little to do with God's work in Jesus. God wanted to do something for us so strange, so utterly beyond the bounds of human imagination, so foreign to human projection, that God had to resort to angels, pregnant virgins and stars in the sky to get it done. We didn't think of it, understand it, or approve it. All we could do in Bethlehem was receive it. A gift from God we hardly even knew.

"It's tough to be on the receiving end of love, God's or anybody else's. It requires that we see our lives not as our possessions, but as gifts... This is often the way God loves us: with gifts we thought we didn't need, which transform us into people we don't necessarily want to be. With our advanced degrees, armies, government programs, material comforts and self-fulfillment techniques, we assume that religion is about giving a little of our power in order to confirm to ourselves that we are indeed as self-sufficient as we claim.

"Then this stranger comes to us, blesses us with a gift, and calls us to see ourselves as we are - empty-handed recipients of a gracious God who, rather than leave us to our own devices, gave us a baby."
~William Willimon in Watch for the Light: Readings for Advent and Christmas

 For reFlection:

  • Do you see your life as a gift or a possession? What might the differences be lived out?
  • In what ways do you find it easier to give than receive?
  • Our inability to receive can often be a symptom of our need to protect or defend ourselves in order to remain in control vs. be vulnerable. Protected people cannot be transformed. Vulnerable people can. The gist of Christianity IS transformation...in what ways do you wish to be transformed?
  • How might you let yourself be loved by receiving over these next few days?
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Wednesday, December 22, 2010

When Christmas becomes a burden...

Beautiful words from Ann Voskamp...

"Christ the Babe comes in Christmas as Christ the Savior comes on the Cross — seeking only our embrace.
What if I laid down efforts and expectations, perfectionism and performance, and simply waited with arms and heart and eyes wide open?"
Christmas cannot be bought. Christmas cannot be created. Christmas cannot be made by hand. Christmas can only be found.

Enjoy the full reflection here, linger with her words, her photos, her invitations...


For reFlection:
  • How are you "finding" Christmas vs. making it happen? 
  • What difference might discovery make in your celebrations?
  • How might you seek to embrace (or be embraced) by the gift of God this week?
  • What do you need to lay down to open your eyes and arms to God's gifts?


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Tuesday, December 21, 2010

What we choose changes us

"Mary was not the only one who chose to leave the life she had thought would be hers. In choosing Mary and her child, in welcoming the Word into his life, Joseph had his own threshold to cross, his own radical yes to say to God. Perhaps on the night of Jesus’ birth, Joseph lifted up a father’s Magnificat in syllables lost to us; perhaps, in a shelter far from home, he wove them into a lullaby for his chosen child.
What are you choosing this day? In your waking, in your dreaming, how are you listening for and attending to the messages and the invitations that are waiting for you?"

A Prayer for Choosing
What we choose
changes us.
Who we love
transforms us.
How we create
remakes us.
Where we live
reshapes us.
So in all our choosing,
O God, make us wise;
in all our loving,
O Christ, make us bold;
in all our creating,
O Spirit, give us courage;
in all our living
may we become whole.
Jan L. Richardson - original post here.

What places in your life need a radical yes? Transformation? Greater intimacy and courage?

Pray this prayer between now and Christmas morning...and pay attention to what might be reshaped, emboldened, given courage, wholeness, fresh wisdom...

Peace...shalom...wholeness...wellness...courageous settledness to you and yours!

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Monday, December 20, 2010

Another outlandish request...



Joseph, I know that you are an upright man, a good guy. As good as they come. And you have every right to stone Mary, your intended bride, because of her seemed infidelity.

How did that feel? What dreams were shattered? What issues of your manhood were devastated? What hopes were dashed? I wonder if your stomach felt nauseous or if your fists were perpetually tensed or if you caught yourself exhaling deep sighs of stress?

What advice were you getting from others? Did their words help you or hinder you?

Rather than retaliate, you decided to kindly divorce her quietly...without making a scene, without you coming out as the hero, the "good guy" the one who would deserve the town's pity in every little gossipy conversation. You were far from a narcissist - no manipulation, no grandiose gestures, no passive aggressive self-promotion. How much did you just want this to go away...and maybe, maybe one day you could move on. Maybe.

And then came angel in the dream. "Don't be afraid to marry Mary...this is not what it looks like. This is outside the box. Yes, it's outlandish. But so is my love for humanity. Joseph, son of David, in the lineage of the intended Messiah...I am choosing you..."

To say this is outlandish is equivalent to asking a Jewish holocaust survivor to forgive Hitler. It is an impossible task. One that is not required...unless the Outlandish One, who so loved the world He sent His one and only Son to be born of a virgin, in utter poverty, to live and be crucified for the sins of the world, unless that One steps in and extends an invitation to mimic such outlandish behavior...

"Joseph woke up and did exactly as the angel commanded..."

He didn't say, "Was that just a dream? Maybe I ate too much lamb last night and..." He didn't second guess. He woke up and did exactly as the angel commanded: Married Mary, did not have sex with Mary (now there's a miracle!) until after the birth of Jesus -  and named his son Jesus. Just as he was commanded.

Where was the "peace" in this already humiliating scene made more scandalous?

Imagine if Joseph would have made a pro/con chart to make his decision....if left to his own, would he have made his decision on what felt "peaceful"?

For reflection:
  • What are some outlandish requests that you've received from God? How did that feel?
  • What feels "outlandish" to you currently...is there a situation you are trying to "figure out." How might you invite God into that decision?
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Sunday, December 19, 2010

Fourth Sunday in Advent...Peace


"Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. 
I do not give to you as the world gives. 
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
~Jesus (John 14.27)

 Jesus speaks parting words to his beloved disciples. Similar to the words throughout the Christmas story...Jesus invites them toward trust, which always the gateway to peace. Essentially Jesus is saying, "Regardless of what this all looks and feels like (i.e. it really doesn't make any logical sense and seems messy),  you do not need to be afraid."

Oh, into how many of my messy, seemingly unpeaceful life situations do I need to receive these words?

Jesus does not give like the world gives...

His giving isn't commercialized nor advertised (except often so poorly by our own lives or tacky church signage) and especially not discounted. There are no coupons - except maybe the one that says, "Free." (There is no fine print on that coupon either.)

His giving is neither manipulative nor monopolizing - there are not strings attached. No hidden fees, no obligations.

His giving costs nothing but our opening our hearts to receive.

He gives what we all long for:

Peace: wholeness/wellness/settledness.

I love how Eugene Peterson translates this in The Message:

I'm leaving you well and whole. 
That's my parting gift to you. 
Peace. 
I don't leave you the way you're used to being left—
feeling abandoned, bereft. 
So don't be upset. Don't be distraught. 

For reflection:
  • In what areas of your life do you need wellness or wholeness?
  • Are there any places where you feel abandoned or bereft?
  • What would it look like to invite Jesus into that space?
  • He gives not as the world gives...so we are to receive not as the world receives...what might that receiving look like in your current reality?
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Saturday, December 18, 2010

The long slow journey...



If
as Herod
we fill our lives with things
and again with things,
if we consider ourselves so important
that we must fill every moment of our lives
with action,
when will we have time
to make the long, slow journey
across the desert
as did the Magi?
Or sit and watch the stars
as did the shepherds?
Or brood over the coming of a child
as did Mary?
For each one of us
there is a desert to travel.
A star to discover.
And a being within ourselves to bring to life.

~Unknown - poem shared in class by my teacher.

For reflection:
  • Have you ever taken a long, slow journey? What was that like?
  • When you reached the end, was it worth it?
  • Which word or phrase caught your attention?
  • Ask the Lord, "How does this connect to my life/circumstances?"
  • What might you be longing to discover, watch, enjoy in life? How do "things" and "filling every moment of our lives with action" interfere with your longing?
  • Ask the Lord, "Lord, what are you inviting me toward?" Listen in and pay attention to how you feel about God's invitation.
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Thursday, December 16, 2010

Releasing a deep, deep joy...

 

In the midst of all the "preparations" for Christmas, the ones besides preparing room in my heart for Him, I am far too easily overwhelmed, sidetracked and find myself slipping down into a subtle malaise.While busily preparing for Christmas, I am missing the whole point of it...and certainly the joy of it. If I unjoyfully decorate, wrap gifts and am frustrated with the joyful and attentive, but dreadfully slow, checkout clerk then something's not quite right.

I'm saddened by how easily this happens - how much more I long to be meaningfully and joyfully present to each moment of my day. To treasure the moments...to practice what I preach.

So yesterday, I caught myself spinning down, down, downward ... and this was especially so after coming home from a multi-day media free retreat and being slammed by emails, unpaid bills, and Christmas planning.

I started sinking...until...

I put on some music and just started dancing!

That's right - not even Christmas music! There was a little Chris Tomlin, Bruce Hornsby and Gungor. And guess what...joy returned.
Joy spilled over!
Joy in my soul seemed to be released as I moved my body!

So today, take five minutes. Put on your favorite "feel good" music and move! Invite the whole family to frolic together...to let loose...and see if just maybe moving your body will release a deep joy in your soul.

Maybe intend to start each day between now and Christmas with a little dance...see if that makes any difference in your day. Let me know what happens!

Joy to the world...and heaven and nature sing...and dance...and frolic...


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Wednesday, December 15, 2010

Outbursts...

Joy to the world, the Lord is come...
let earth receive her King
Let every heart, prepare Him room...


What has been your most recent "outburst"? I think mine was on the freeway...some idiot...well, you know...


But seriously -

What is so deeply embedded in you that it bursts out in joyful celebration?

When was the last time you burst out in anything - was it joy, or rage, or excitement of a touchdown at a football game? The things that burst out of us expose what is in our hearts. The things that irrepressibly come forth from us divulge, whether we like it or not, what we love.

As you enter this day - pay attention to your desire to have joy in your life. How might you cultivate this life of bursting with joy?

Isaac Watts, the author of the famed Christmas carol, Joy to the World, gives us a clue:

Let every heart prepare Him room.
Let every heart prepare Him
Let every heart prepare
Let every heart
Let every
Let

Which means you have a choice to open your heart...to prepare your heart...to receive His coming...and to burst out with a joyful song, dance or "oh yeah!" when He comes to make His blessings known.


During Advent God does the coming...everyday...our job is to do the "letting" the "receiving" the "preparing." What is one small way the Lord might be inviting you to do that today?

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Tuesday, December 14, 2010

Joy in preparing

Joy to the world, the Lord is come...
let earth receive her King
Let every heart, prepare Him room...

In the past few days have you found unhurried space to prepare room in your heart for Him?

Or has it seemed that you've had to send God off to the stable because of busyness, distractions, and being overwhelmed with all the Christmas preparations?

Is there a connection between preparing room and bearing joy? If so, could we conversely posit that lack of joy is directly related to lack of preparing room in your heart for the One who is the Source, Means and End of Joy?

I'm just wondering...


What things in the past have helped you prepare room in your heart for God? Take a moment of silence now and ask God, "Lord, in what ways might I prepare room for you today?"


Joy.
JoY.
JOY

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Monday, December 13, 2010

Joy in receiving....

Joy to the world, the Lord is come...
let earth receive her King
Let every heart, prepare Him room...


Do you find it easy or difficult to receive? We often quote that it is more blessed (and so we think spiritual) to give than to receive, but I think it's easier to give than to receive. I like being generous. I love to see others blessed. But when I am on the receiving end I feel humbled...and sometimes guilty, and sometimes obligated. Many times I squirm...because either I feel undeserving or feign underserving. There have been times when I had no intention to give a gift to someone, but after they gave something to me, I ran out to pick something out for them.

Why can't I just receive - fully - with gratitude and without obligation to return the favor?
I do this poorly on a human level so when the God of the universe comes in to lavish His love and delight and care on me...oh my...I stand in the way of what I most want - to let myself be loved utterly.

Leonard Sweet says, "My inability to receive is the greatest disability I have."

How are you as a receiver (and might also say as a lover, for a lover must learn to gracefully dance in the giving and receiving of love)?

And how might joy - true and lasting joy - be connected to learning how to be a good receiver? In other words, how might joy be the natural, irrepressibley by-product of our simply stopping in the midst of the ordinary to "receive" all that a moment has to offer us?

The bottom line gist of Christianity is receiving: "For it is by grace (unearned, unmerited pardon) that you are saved through faith; and this is not of yourselves, it is a gift of God, not a result of works so that no one can boast." Eph 3. 8-9

unearned...not of yourselves...a gift...not a result of works...no one can boast...

How might you become a better "receiver" this Christmas? Will you let others step in to help serve your needs - even if they do it imperfectly? Will you be more present to the moments and linger in the beauty of even the simplest tastes, sights, sounds and smells of Christmas?

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Sunday, December 12, 2010

Third Sunday in Advent...Joy

Joy to the world, the Lord is come...
let earth receive her King
Let every heart, prepare Him room...


Joy because God has come.

Not just in a past event...He is ever coming...intimately acquainted with our everyday lives (Psalm 139). David pens, "Surely goodness and mercy will follow me (pursue me) all the days of my life." (Ps. 23:6) and Solomon declares that God's mercies are new EVERY morning. (Lamentations 3: 22-23).

Do you sense that God is aware of the joys and concerns of your life? Are you aware that He comes every morning with new mercies? Do you believe He is pursuing you? Do you want to be caught by His loving pursuit? (And what is your immediate response to that question...pay attention to your body, your breathing, your desires...what is happening?)
Or perhaps you have experienced a time when you were "caught" by God's love and mercy: What was that like? What did you discover about yourself and God?

This consider prayerfully starting each morning,
"Lord, I want to be caught by your love. 
Will you unexpectedly delight me
and make me aware of Your intimate pursuit of me."

And keep your eyes pealed...He likes to show up in unexpected places...sorta like a baby in a feeding trough.


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Friday, December 10, 2010

Stop to worship amid the "ordinary" of your day...



What I love about this video is the unexpectancy...amid the flurry of a fastfood court at a noisy mall in breaks joy and truth and power!

Look for how God might "come" to you in unexpected ways today!

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Thursday, December 09, 2010

Celebrate Small at Advent...


Acorns turn into oak trees. Embryos become President. Love starts with hello. Life starts with a breath. All small, like Bethlehem.
Small things don’t always turn into big things, but big things always start out small. Lean into small, celebrate small. And in the words of a wise friend and counselor, don’t despise the days of small beginnings. ~ Emily Freeman
Hundreds of years before the census of Caesar Augustus and the birth of Christ...the prophet Micah wrote this:

“But you, Bethlehem Ephrathah, though you are small among the clans of Judah, 
out of you will come for me one who will be ruler over Israel, 
whose origins are from of old, from ancient times.”
–Micah 5:2


A small edict - a census form - required Mary and Joseph to travel to Bethlehem. Bethlehem...the least and easily overlooked of all the clans of Judah, the humble birthplace for Messiah. A feeding trough in a stable - an uncomely home for a newborn King. A poor carpenter from Nazareth, an unlikely daddy to raise the Son of God. An unwed mother - a scandalous choice to bear the Savior of the world. Disreputable Shepherds - unlikely first witnesses to God incarnating into the world.


For reflection:
  • Sit with the Lord today and ask Him, "What are the small things - the overlooked things - that you'd like me to pay attention to?"
  • Reflect on someone you love and how that love story began (sort of that "You had me at hello moment...). How might you create a small, loving gesture to someone today - a smile to a storeclerk, holding the door for the elderly, calling someone who God has brought to your heart?)
  • How might you celebrate the "small" things of your day today - (saying "no" to that 2nd helping, saying "yes" to extended time with your child even when the laundry didn't get finished, taking 10 minutes at lunch to walk around the block and breathe in fresh air)?
UnhurryUp™ and celebrate the small things of Advent

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Wednesday, December 08, 2010

When all the gifts are for Him...



I am impressed that Ann Voskamp and her family have spent a decade NOT giving gifts to one another on Christmas...but giving gifts to Jesus...Check out this blog post - great ideas and challenges!

For reFlection:

  • What did you find yourself liking about these suggestions? (I liked the cake for breakfast :)
  • What did you dislike?
  • Pay attention to your heart...is there something different that you want to do this year? What is it? How might you take initiative to make that happen as a family?

Christmas Change from Kujilana on Vimeo.

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Tuesday, December 07, 2010

Advent ponderings from a prison cell...

Today is Pearl Harbor remembrance day from WWII - on the other side of the world, in Germany, a young theologian was penning his thoughts from a Nazi prison...



"A prison cell, in which one waits, hopes... and is completely dependent on the fact that the door of freedom has to be opened from the outside, is not a bad picture of Advent"

 
 
Dietrich Bonhoeffer was a theologian, a pastor, a spiritual writer, a musician, and an author of fiction and poetry. As a Christian, Bonnhoeffer lived in Germany during the time of Hitler and stood up in voice and action against the atrocities facing the Jewish people. In April of 1943 he was imprisoned for his political resistance to the Nazi's brutality. Nearly two years later he was transferred to Buchenwald concentration camp. When it was discovered that Bonnhoeffer was a part of a group attempting to assassinate Hitler, Hitler ordered Bonnhoeffer and the other members of this group to be killed. 
 
On April 9th, 1945, Bonhoeffer (age 39) was hanged at Flossenburg for his participation in a Protestant resistance movement to the Nazi regime.
 
For reflection:
  • What strikes you about Bonnhoeffer's statement in light of his imprisonment?
  • Did Bonnhoeffer ultimately get freedom? How does your answer make you feel?
  • What are some of the perceived "prisons" of your life that you need "Someone" from the outside to open the door?
  • How might you hope in Christ to be near you in your waiting and hoping?
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Monday, December 06, 2010

Happy St. Nicholas Day!

 The top middle picture is a reconstructed face of the real St. Nick based upon modern forensic anthropology.

Taking a moment out of Advent to celebrate the real, godly St. Nicholas! Click here for a previous post about celebrating St. Nicholas day. Or feel free to go to www.saintnicholascenter.org for more info about St. Nick.

May you share anonymously in the memory of St. Nicholas today - take some warm coffee to a bell ringer, help your neighbor to rake up any leaves or sweep their walk; bless someone you know with a bag of groceries - have fun! Be creative! Love boldly and joyfully like Nick!

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Sunday, December 05, 2010

Advent Week 2 - Celebrating Love


Today marks the 2nd Sunday in Advent - celebrating Love...

Here is Jesus' invitation from John 15: 

4"Live in me. Make your home in me just as I do in you. 
In the same way that a branch can't bear grapes by itself 
but only by being joined to the vine, 
you can't bear fruit unless you are joined with me.
 5-8"I am the Vine, you are the branches. 
When you're joined with me and I with you,
the relation intimate and organic, the harvest is sure to be abundant. 
Separated, you can't produce a thing. 
Anyone who separates from me is deadwood, 
gathered up and thrown on the bonfire. 
But if you make yourselves at home with me and my words are at home in you, 
you can be sure that whatever you ask will be listened to and acted upon. 
This is how my Father shows who he is—
when you produce grapes, 
when you mature as my disciples.
 9-10"I've loved you the way my Father has loved me. 
Make yourselves at home in my love. 
If you keep my commands, you'll remain intimately at home in my love. 
That's what I've done—
kept my Father's commands and made myself at home in his love.
 11ff"I've told you these things for a purpose: 
that my joy might be your joy, and your joy wholly mature. 
This is my command: Love one another the way I loved you. 
This is the very best way to love. 

For reflection:
  • Read the passage above outloud a few times. What words or phrases do you notice? 
  • Read the passage again: Silently give space to ask the Lord, "How does this word or phrase connect to my heart, my life circumstances?" Listen in for any inkling of a gentle connection.
  • Read the passage again: Ask the Lord, "What are you inviting me toward?" Again, sit quietly listening for His gentle wooings of something He wants you to pay deeper attention to.
  • Journal or discuss: In the midst of listening I sensed God saying..... How I feel about this invitation is.... (nervous, at peace, confused, doubtful, more interested....)
  • Journal or discuss: What makes you feel at home? How might you become more at home in God's love? How might you draw what "feeling at home"?
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Saturday, December 04, 2010

Give more Presence this year...



How do you feel about giving presents? Does it stress you out or bring you delight?

A couple of years ago our family decided that buying gifts just because that's the tradition of what we've always done stresses us out. So instead: We decided to give gifts to charities of our choice on behalf of one another. We've given chickens and goats to children, we've donated to wounded soldiers funds, and to help fund ministries reaching out to care for women in sex trafficking and to help developing countries get wells for clean water. I cannot tell you how much less stress this has brought to our Christmas preparations - and a deep joy knowing that we don't have to return the ugly sweater :)

  • Are you resolving, again, this year that you will make Christmas more meaningful? 
  • What if you made more time to either make gifts or to be WITH one another? 
  • 20 days from now, when Christmas day arrives will you be glad for how you have spend your time and money? 
  • Have you become numb to the "norm" of merely surviving the Christmas season with financial, relational, and physical stress from overindulgence?
Choose NOW what you want more - and take proactive initiative to do one thing differently that will help you give more of YOURSELF and YOUR TIME to others this season.

Once again, it seems time (we're too busy and especially during this season) is our enemy when we think about caring for the world, our families and fostering a deeper spiritual life during this Holyday season. When will you stop making "lack of time" be your excuse for what you really want?

What might you do differently to give more Presence this year - and give a bit of the money you save to some of your favorite charities?

May you UnhurryUp™ your way into worship and joy this season...
and may His presence be reFreshing to your soul!

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Friday, December 03, 2010

Thursday, December 02, 2010

Confronting the corrosion of the heart ...an advent reflection from Rob Bell



Here is a snippet of a great article re: the rhythm of Advent (and the church calendar as a whole) from Rob Bell:


Advent is about anticipating the birth of Christ. It’s about longing, desire, that which is yet to come. That which isn’t here yet. And so we wait, expectantly. Together. With an ache. Because all is not right. Something is missing.
Why does Advent mean so much to me?
Because cynicism is the new religion of our world. Whatever it is, this religion teaches that it isn’t as good as it seems. It will let you down. It will betray you.
That institution? That church? That politician? That authority figure? They’ll all let you down.
Whatever you do, don’t get your hopes up. Whatever you think it is, whatever it appears to be, it will burn you, just give it time.
Advent confronts this corrosion of the heart with the insistence that God has not abandoned the world, hope is real and something is coming.
Advent charges into the temple of cynicism with a whip of hope, overturning the tables of despair, driving out the priests of that jaded cult, announcing there’s a new day and it’s not like the one that came before it.
“The not yet will be worth it,” Advent whispers in the dark.
Old man Simeon stands in the temple, holding the Christ child, rejoicing that now he can die because what he’d been waiting for actually arrived.
And so each December (though Advent starts the last Sunday of November this year), we enter into a season of waiting, expecting, longing. Spirit meets us in the ache.
We ask God to enter into the deepest places of cynicism, bitterness and hardness where we have stopped believing that tomorrow can be better than today.
We open up. We soften up. We turn our hearts in the direction of that day. That day when the baby cries His first cry and we, surrounded by shepherds and angels and everybody in between, celebrate that sound in time that brings our Spirits what we’ve been longing for.

Click here for the full article

For reflection:
  • What are you cynical about in our world today? About church?
  • How might Advent confront this cynical corrosion of your heart?
  • What ache/longing do you have deep in your heart that you could talk to God about today?
  • In what ways do you believe the "not yet" of God's kingdom, both here on earth and after death, be worth it? What part of the "not yet" do you look forward to?
  • Listen in and ask God, "In what part of my life/outlook might you want to soften my heart?"

unhurryUp!™

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Wednesday, December 01, 2010

Waiting...or wandering...

Waiting for Christ to Come
by Henri Nouwen

"If we do not wait patiently in expectation for God's coming in glory, we start wandering around, going from one little sensation to another. Our lives get stuffed with newspaper items, television stories, and gossip. Then our minds lose the discipline of discerning between what leads us closer to God and what doesn't, and our hearts gradually lose their spiritual sensitivity.

"Without waiting for the second coming of Christ, we will stagnate quickly and become tempted to indulge in whatever gives us a moment of pleasure. When Paul asks us to wake from sleep, he says: "Let us live decently, as in the light of day; with no orgies or drunkenness, no promiscuity or licentiousness, and no wrangling or jealousy. Let your armour be the Lord Jesus Christ, and stop worrying about how your disordered natural inclinations may be fulfilled" (Romans 13:13-14). When we have the Lord to look forward to, we can already experience him in the waiting."

Henri Nouwen

Consider:
  • What words or scenes come to your mind/heart when you think about waiting? How do you feel about those words/scenes?
  • In general, would you characterize your life as waiting or wandering? Or ???
  • What is your life stuffed with? How might that keep you developing your spiritual sensitivity?
  • What have you intentionally scheduled into your week that leads you closer to God?

UnhurryUp!™

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Tuesday, November 30, 2010

Willing to live in the questions...



“To be a Christian does not mean knowing all the answers; 
to be a Christian means being willing to live 
in the part of the self where the question is born.”

Wendy M. Wright (words spoken to her by a Trappist retreat master – in her book: The Vigil: Keeping Watch in the Season of Christ’s Coming"

As you enter into this Advent season do you have unanswered questions and longings?

You're not alone.

I'm pretty sure unwed and pregnant Mary, as she traveled with Joseph from Nazareth toward Bethlehem by decree of the Roman census, didn't have a lot of answers. And when it came time for them to have the baby and they were far from home and family and all that was familiar to them, finding only a smelly stable for shelter, I'm sure they had a lot of stressful and urgent questions. And when the shepherds, led by a glorious pronouncement from a choir of Heavenly Hosts showed up after Jesus' birth to see this spectacle...I'm sure Mary and Joseph were not a little curious about all that was unfolding before their eyes.

We don't hear the questions - but Luke tells us of Mary's response:

"But Mary treasured up all these things and pondered them in her heart." (Luke 2:19)

Mary, it seems, had the ability to capture the moments, unanswerable questions and all, and make space in her heart to ponder all that was being given. She didn't rush past it. She didn't demand (or run to google) the answers. She didn't fast-forward to the future to figure out how to manage and find solutions to their current predicament.

The Greek word for "pondered" is sumballo - "or to give careful consideration to various implications of an issue—‘to reflect on, to think about seriously, to think deeply about.'" Johannes P. Louw and Eugene Albert Nida, vol. 1, Greek-English Lexicon of the New Testament : Based on Semantic Domains, electronic ed. of the 2nd edition. (New York: United Bible societies, 1996), 349.

The Greek word for "treasured" is suntereo - it means to cause oneself to be continuously fully aware of, guard, keep in mind, preserve. 

To be a follower of Christ does not mean we necessarily have all (or many) of the answers...but it is an invitation to do what it takes to intentionally "cause oneself to be continuously aware," to capture life's moments and make space in our hearts and our days to live into the mysterious, inward crevices of our lives from where our deepest questions are birthed.

As you enter into this Holyday season, what are some of your deeper questions in life?

Now listen more deeply: Ask, "Lord, what do these unanswered questions say about my heart? My soul? My longings? My needs?"

Advent is a season which invites us to expectantly ponder, treasure, and live into the deeper places from whence our questions are formed. Whether or not you find answers, may you find a peace that passes all understanding as you cause yourself to be continuously aware this season...

Mary - truly a patron saint for the unhurryupians!

UnhurryUp!™

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Monday, November 29, 2010

Advent - a messy season

Below are some thoughts that my pastor, Jeremy Erb, delivered for the first Sunday of Advent. His sermon series during these next weeks is entitled: "Messy" - you can listen in here. I've also copied the notes that Jeremy included with his text.



Matthew begins by introducing his gospel as “the record of the genealogy of Jesus Christ.” I imagine most people skip over a very vital piece of information in those eight words. This is a result of a common misunderstanding about the word Christ. To our culture and to our ears this means that Jesus is his first name and that Christ is his last name. His name is Jesus Christ. Unfortunately, that is not how the Hebrews did things. Christ is not the last name of Jesus – rather, it is a very important title that tells us significant things about Jesus.
The word Christ is an English transliteration of a Greek noun – the word christos. It literally means “the anointed one.” It is also the word used to translate the Hebrew word meshica, from which we get Messiah, in the Greek translation of the Old Testament called the Septuagint. Thus, both of the English terms Christ and Messiah have the same source in Greek – christos. They both mean “the anointed one” and they both refer to a King.
So Matthew introduces his main character Jesus by announcing he is the Christ – the Messiah – the anointed one of God. He then proceeds to prove this claim by demonstrating Jesus’ right to Kingship genealogically. He simply states that Jesus is both the “Son of David” and the “Son of Abraham.” Well, so what? What is the significance of the fact that Jesus can claim both David and Abraham as His ancestors? In order to answer this question we have to go back, way back in the Old Testament and get an understanding of God’s plan to deal with sin. We just did this in our study of Galatians and I’m sure we’ll do it again in the future because this is the big picture of the bible that we have got to understand.
When Adam and Eve fell in the garden and sin entered into the human experience – God had some things to say. We call it the curse. Mankind was cursed because of their willful choice of disobedience. Yet in the middle of the curse God offers a glimpse of the future and with it a promise. In GENESIS 3:15 God declares that there will be a cosmic conflict lived out in the descendants of Adam and Eve. It reads, “And I will put enmity between you (Satan) and the woman (Eve) and between you offspring (seed) and her offspring (seed); He (the seed) shall bruise you on the head, and you shall bruise him on the heel.” Here in the vaguest of terms God promises a redeemer – a coming ‘seed’ that will end the conflict started in the garden between mankind and Satan, which is ultimately a struggle between man and God.
In one sense, the rest of scripture is the unfolding historical reality of God progressively fulfilling this promise in GENESIS 3:15. If you keep reading in Genesis, Cain and Abel are the first representatives of the seeds but not the fulfillment. (See I JOHN 3:10-12, HEBREWS 11:4, and JUDE 8-11.) Next the conflict arises between Noah and the Nephilim and so on…but that’s another sermon.

A. SON OF ABRAHAM

However, when we get to GENESIS 12 God does something decisively different. When choosing Abraham, God promises to him a seed that will bring blessing to every nation of the earth. Israel, God’s chosen people would become God’s breeding stock of THE SEED. The promises issued to Abraham are found in GENESIS 12-22. Here are the essentials:
1 Now the Lord said to Abram, “Go from your country and your kindred and your father’s house to the land that I will show you. 2 And I will make of you a great nation, and I will bless you and make your name great, so that you will be a blessing. 3 I will bless those who bless you, and him who dishonors you I will curse, and in you all the families of the earth shall be blessed.”
Genesis 12:1-3 (ESV)
17 I will surely bless you, and I will surely multiply your offspring as the stars of heaven and as the sand that is on the seashore. And your offspring shall possess the gate of his enemies, 18 and in your offspring shall all the nations of the earth be blessed, because you have obeyed my voice.”
Genesis 22:17-18 (ESV)
Notice specifically that last reference in GENESIS 22:18. Abraham is promised a seed, singular, by which all the nations will be blessed. Paul picks up on this and says in GALATIANS 3:16: “Now the promises were made to Abraham and to his offspring. It does not say, “And to offsprings,” referring to many, but referring to one, “And to your offspring,” who is Christ.” So when Matthew records that Jesus is the Christ, son of Abraham, he’s not messing around – he’s saying something. He is saying that Jesus is anointed one of God.

B. SON OF DAVID

Matthew continues by tracing Christ’s lineage to King David. After Abraham, God continued his plan of bringing about the seed. God’s next major promise regarding the seed is made to the man described as ‘a man after God’s own heart.’ Let’s look at what God promised David.
12 When your days are fulfilled and you lie down with your fathers, I will raise up your offspring after you, who shall come from your body, and I will establish his kingdom. 13 He shall build a house for my name, and I will establish the throne of his kingdom forever.
2 Samuel 7:12-13 (ESV)
First the seed is promised to Abraham and then God promises that it will come from the line of David. One of David’s seed, being also the seed of Abraham, will be the eternal mediator and ruler of God’s Kingdom. So when Matthew declares Jesus to be the Son of David, Son of Abraham he is backing up his claim that Jesus is the Christ – the anointed King and promised seed of God.
This is just a brief overview of how the scriptures demonstrate that Jesus is God’s anointed King. Jesus is the long awaited hope of the entire world. He is the seed that was promised in the garden that would crush the head of Satan and reconcile mankind to the Creator. Jesus is the hinge-point of history – God’s exclamation point to both His mercy and His justice. Jesus is the Christ – the anointed King of God’s Kingdom and truly the heir of promise and I have one question for you: “So what?”
So what? I mean it – can we be honest for a minute with each other? So – freaking – what? To be honest, this is the kind of abstract truth that in one sense drove me from the church when I was younger. It’s interesting intellectually but does little for my heart and is almost completely irrelevant to the realities of my day-to-day life. I can appreciate the fact that Jesus is the anointed King of God – the promised seed – even the Redeemer and Reconciler of man to God – I can appreciate these truths as factual realities; but…
I can’t relate to a King. The fact that Jesus is the seed promised from the very beginning does nothing to help me in my daily struggles with sin. I want to do more than know truth – I need to experience it. The reality of what God did in the past through Christ is only important to me as much as it impacts me now in the here and now. And I can’t relate to Abraham or David. I’m NOT a great man of faith and I’m certainly not a king and I would never describe myself as ‘a man after God’s own heart.’ I’d love to be – I just don’t think that I am. And if you ask my wife – please don’t – I’m sure she’ll confirm it.
Thankfully, there is more to this passage than simply the Kingship of Christ. For the genealogy continues and Matthew does something very strange for a Jewish historian – he includes women within the genealogy. Israel was a patriarchal society and lineage was traced through the men so why would Matthew include the names of five women? 
The first name to be included that shouldn’t have been is in verse three – Tamar.

A. TAMAR (1:3)

Genesis 38 contains the tragic story of Tamar. A woman whose life didn’t turn out the way she expected. She married Judah’s son Er, a man so evil in the sight of the LORD that God took his life. Left widowed and alone, Judah married her to his next son Onan so that she might be provided for and Er’s name might live on. Onan, an evil man as well, refused to fulfill his obligation and deliberately ‘spilled his seed,’ leaving Tamar barren. The LORD took Onan’s life as well.
Left widowed and alone for a second time, Tamar is told to wait for Judah’s next son Shelah to grow up. After years of waiting, when it becomes apparent that Judah will not fulfill his obligation she resorts to prostituting herself and becoming pregnant by Judah himself. She was a lonely, desperate woman who resorted to deceit and prostitution to survive.

B. RAHAB (1:5)

When the Israelites first entered the Promised Land under the leadership of Joshua, their first battle was with the people of Jericho. Joshua 2 contains the story of Rahab. She was a pagan, not a descendant of Abraham who did not know or worship the true God. Most likely she was an idol worshipper. But she had heard of the God of Israel and what she heard made her afraid.
Now Rahab did come to faith and I’ve thought long and hard about her character. I’ve heard many sermons trying to defend her actions but what I see is this. She betrayed her own people, lied to her King, and bargained for her own life at the price of others. She was a weak, cowardly, deceitful woman who was only moved to faith in God out of fear and desperate sense of self-preservation.

C. RUTH (1:5)

Ruth married an Israelite running away from God. He died leaving her a widow in a harsh world where women were hard pressed to survive on their own. Moreover, she was a Moabitess. A pagan for whom the Law demanded 10 generations of faithfulness before being included into the community.
3 “No Ammonite or Moabite may enter the assembly of the Lord. Even to the tenth generation, none of them may enter the assembly of the Lord forever, 4 because they did not meet you with bread and with water on the way, when you came out of Egypt, and because they hired against you Balaam the son of Beor from Pethor of Mesopotamia, to curse you.
Deuteronomy 23:3-4 (ESV)

D. BATHSHEBA ► THE WIFE OF URIAH (1:6)

2 Samuel 11 records the story of David’s disastrous love affair with Bathsheba and his murder of her husband Uriah. Much attention has been focused on David’s role in this affair but Bathsheba’s actions are often overlooked. Here is a woman who bathed herself publicly knowing that she was being watched. Here was a woman who willfully committed adultery against her godly husband. Here was a woman who participated in a plot to deceive her husband. Here was a woman who did not act to stop her husband’s murder.

E. MARY (1:16)

Finally comes the young teenage girl pregnant out of wedlock. To all appearances a woman unfaithful to her betrothed. A young, pregnant, fearful, poor, about to be abandoned girl was chosen to bear the baby Jesus – that is, the Christ.
In Christ we see a beautiful paradox and a holy irony. Jesus is the promised Christ – the fulfillment of the covenants made with Abraham and David – descended from Pagans and prostitutes. He is spiritual and earthly – divine and human – supernatural and natural – extraordinary and ordinary. He is the unknowable God incased in a humanity, which all can understand – and all can relate to.
No one can say to Him, “You don’t know where I’ve come from. You don’t know what I’ve done.” Jesus identified Himself with sinful humanity so that sinful humanity could identify themselves with him. Therefore, Jesus is the King that we both need and want.

Sunday, November 28, 2010

First Sunday of Advent...hope

Here's a little visual prayer to start off Advent...He is coming!




Advent - a season to wait in hope for the Lord - UnhurryUp!™

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Friday, November 26, 2010

While you're out shopping today...consider continuing to give thanks

This is a reposting of Darrne Hardy's article found in entirety here... consider taking his challenge at the end of the article

To Be Great, Be Grateful

Darren Hardy blogDid you know your brain is NOT designed to make you happy? I know this might be alarming to you, but brain has only one primary responsibility—to keep you alive. Thus your brain is constantly on the lookout for danger and attack warnings. Your brain is programmed specifically to seek out the negative...

...This is where the power of gratitude comes in. If you want to direct your life in a positive direction, you have to redirect your mind towards abundance and what’s positive by forcing it to focus it on what you are grateful for.

If you want to become great, you have to focus on being grateful. You can change any situation in your life by simply redirecting your mind to focus on what’s right about it versus what is wrong.

I have a Thanksgiving Challenge for you.

Of the many insights shared in The Compound Effect, one repeatedly I am told has made a profound difference is the story of the Thanksgiving Journal (read the excerpt below). My challenge to you is to think of an area of your life you are having difficulty in and want to improve. For the next 21 days, take three minutes at the end of the day and write down what about that problematic situation you appreciate, what’s good and what you’re grateful for. This could be a confrontational co-worker at the office, your job as a whole or your troubled marriage… anything or anyone that frustrates or negatively affects you.

I promise you, when you change how you look at a situation, the situation changes.

Who is up for this simple challenge? Come on, reading this blog won’t help you. As Johann Von Goethe said, “Knowing is not enough; we must apply.” Ideas without implementation are useless. Ideas executed have the power to change the world—particularly your world.

Take the challenge. Not for me, for you. Will you? 3 minutes a day for 21 days. 

Excerpt from:
The Compound Effect—Multiplying your Results. One Simple Step at a Time.
Thanksgiving Year-Round
We’re particularly gifted in the finger-pointing department when it comes to our romantic relationships—you know, where the other person is the one who needs to change. Let me explain how something extremely simple, taking less than 5-minutes a day, can literally change your life.
A few years back, a friend of mine was complaining about his wife. From my observation, she was a terrific lady, and he was lucky to have her. I told him as much, but he continued to point out all the ways she was responsible for his unhappiness. That’s when I shared an experience that had literally changed my marriage… and me.
One Thanksgiving, I decided to keep a Thanks Giving journal for my wife. Every day for an entire year I logged at least one thing I appreciated about her—the way she interacted with her friends, how she cared for our dogs, the fresh bed she prepared, a succulent meal she whipped up, or the beautiful way she styled her hair that day—whatever. I looked for the things my wife was doing that touched me, or revealed attributes, characteristics, or qualities I appreciated. I wrote them all down secretly for the entire year. By the end of that year, I’d filled an entire journal.
When I gave it to her the following Thanksgiving, she cried, calling it the best gift she’d ever received. (Even better than the BMW I’d given her for her birthday!) The funny thing was that the person most affected by this gift was me. All that journaling forced me to focus on my wife’s positive aspects. I was consciously looking for all the things she was doing “right.” That heartfelt focus overwhelmed anything I might have otherwise complained about. I fell deeply in love with her all over again (maybe even more than ever, as I was seeing subtleties in her nature and behavior instead of her more obvious qualities). My appreciation, gratitude, and intention to find the best in her was something I held in my heart and eyes each day. This caused me to show up differently in my marriage, which, of course, made her respond differently to me. Soon, I had even more things to write in my Thanks Giving journal! As a result of choosing to take a mere five minutes every day or so to document all the reasons why I was grateful for her, we experienced one of the best years of our marriage, and it’s only gotten better.
After I shared my experience, my friend decided to keep a Thanks Giving journal about his wife. Within the first few months, he completely turned around his marriage. Choosing to look for and focus on his wife’s positive qualities changed his view of her, which changed how he interacted with her. As a result, she made different choices about the way she responded to him. The cycle perpetuated. Or, shall we say, compounded.

Thursday, November 25, 2010

Now thank we all our God!



"Martin Rinckart [Rinkart] was one of those provincial clergymen to whom Germany had so much reason to be grateful. The son of a poor coppersmith, he made his way at the University of Leipzig by dint of industry and his musical gifts, took orders, and was precentor of the church at Eisleben.

"At the age of thirty-one was offered the place of Archdeacon at his native town of Eilenburg in Saxony. He went there as the war broke out, and died just after the peace, and throughout these thirty-one years he stood by his flock, and helped them to the utmost under every kind of distress. Of course he had to endure the quartering of soldiers in his house, and frequent plunderings of his little stock of grain and household goods. But these were small things.

"The plague of 1637 visited Eilenburg with extraordinary severity; the town was overcrowded with fugitives from the country districts where the Swedes had been spreading devastation, and in this one year 8,000 persons died in it. The whole of the town council except three persons, a terrible number of school children, and the clergymen of the neighbouring parish, were all carried off; and Rinckart had to do the work of three men, and did it manfully at the beds of the sick and dying. He buried more than 4,000 persons, but through all his labours he himself remained perfectly well. The pestilence was followed by a famine so extreme that thirty or forty persons might be seen fighting in the streets for a dead cat or crow. Rinckart, with the burgomaster and one other citizen, did what could be done to organize assistance, and gave away everything but the barest rations for his own family, so that his door was surrounded by a crowd of poor starving wretches, who found it their only refuge.

"After all this suffering came the Swedes once more, and imposed upon the unhappy town a tribute of 30,000 dollars. Rinckart ventured to the camp to entreat the general for mercy, and when it was refused, turned to the citizens who followed him, saying, "Come, my children, we can find no hearing, no mercy with men, let us take refuge with God." He fell on his knees, and prayed with such touching earnestness that the Swedish general relented, and lowered his demand at last to 2,000 florins. So great were Rinckart's own losses and charities that he had the utmost difficulty in finding bread and clothes for his children, and was forced to mortgage his future income for several years."


In the midst of the war and suffering, Rinckart is best known for writing the great hymn that triumphantly proclaims this:
Now thank we all our God, with heart and hands and voices
Who wondrous things has done, in whom this world rejoices;
Who from our mothers' arms has blessed us on our way
With countless gifts of love, and still is ours today.

O may this bounteous God, Through all our life be near us
With ever joyful hearts, And blessed peace to cheer us
And keep us in His grace and guide us when perplexed
And free us from all ills, in this world and the next.

All praise and thanks to God The Father now be given.
The Son, and Him who reigns with them in Highest Heaven
The one eternal God, Whom earth and heav'n adore
For thus it was is now, and shall be evermore. 

How are you thanking God with your heart? Your hands? Your voice?
What countless gifts of love have you received?
How do you sense He's near you when perplexed?
How have you experienced being "kept" in His grace?

May you have a very unhurried and rich Thanksgiving with eyes to see the wondrous things God has and is doing in and around your life!

Wednesday, November 24, 2010

What is time unfolding in you? Part II


Recently, one of my directees so astutely overheard herself: "[My inability to cultivate space for God] both causes something in me and is also a symptom of something in me."

In other words, she saw something unfolding within her that felt akin to a downward spiral. The symptom driving the shame, causing a gentle, but nontheless berating of herself for not doing enough for God, to trying again, to failing, to being exhausted in the trying, to ignoring what is too painful. This led to a seemingly nagging (but actually a "disguised" but beautiful longing) "Isn't there more?"

What unfolds in us over time comes forth from what is cultivated... in the same way a gardener attends to the specific needs of planting seeds in the correct depths and widths, into proper soil nutrients, with appropriate amounts of water and sunshine so that it can flourish and blossom,  we need to cultivate environments so that time (and God) may unfold the blossoms we are designed to reveal with beauty to the world.


A haphazard environment is more likely to produce a reactionary, "survival" or "vague, but shallow wishful thinking" about life and living. Merely hoping for change will lead to a life lived in regrettable responses to the stresses and strains that come along with their taunting, devouring and cynical ways.

As you think about approaching Advent - a season of waiting, listening, stillness, expectation, hope, joy and receiving of God's gift of life -  even amidst the crazy, busy, party, overindulgent distractions of the season - what is God inviting you to cultivate?

Consider:
  • What is unfolding in your heart and life? Are you unfolding into a person that you'd like to be?
  • If you were to describe your "spiral" of growth, what would it look like?
  • Are you moving toward the things you long for (relationally, spiritually, physically, emotionally, vocationally)? 
  • Are you cultivating ways to care of your body in ways that bring nurture, health and respect for God's temple? What would that look like?
  • Are you cultivating moments to "ponder" and "treasure" life and God's good gifts?
  • Are you helping to shape a life (physically, emotionally, spiritually, financially, intellectually) that you'd like - or are you putting it off for "someday" or just excusing it with thinking you're just in a season you have to gut out?
 Do you like what time is unfolding in you? Can you be patient to intentionally cooperate with the One who is for you and knows how to unfold you in His time? What is God gently inviting you toward in cultivating the unfolding of your life?

UnhurryUp!™

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Tuesday, November 23, 2010

What is time unfolding in you? Part I



“Time does not change us, it unfolds us.”   Max Frisch
Pause and be aware of your own connection to these words:
  • How does this quote strike you? Is it inviting you to lean in closer? 
  • Does it sound pithy and ridiculous?  Or unrealistic?
  • How do you think change happens?
  • Which word most draws you to pay attention to it? 
  • What is unfolding in your heart/life now...how do you feel about what is unfolding?

UnhurryUp!™

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Monday, November 22, 2010

She would have accomplished so much...



Last Tuesday I had the wonderful opportunity and blessing to go out to The DreamGiver's Inn to have some reFresh space for me...no one else signed up for the scheduled retreat, so I received the day to get some uninterrupted space to work on some sorely neglected projects. Within the first 10 minutes of settling into the window seat in the "courage" room, I felt sleepy. My inner task master was angry - I had so much to do - yet all I could do was fight to keep my eyelids open. In the midst of the battle between "doing" and "being" (yes, even I suffer this plight!), a deep malaise came over me. Was it a creative block that I just needed to push through? Or was it best to surrender to my body's need?

Deciding to take the advice I so generously grant others, I lowered down, puffed and strategically rearranged a few pillows and covered myself with the afghan. But I couldn't sleep. Taunted by the creative to-do list of music, writings and curriculum development, my brain was like the energizer bunny after drinking a redbull - way too scattered to contribute well to any one thing. I was so frustrated.

Shortly thereafter my friend Kate arrived - she was going to help me stay to task and get after the writing. She listened...a lot...to my complaints and questions and musings about why I feel blocked and frustrated. She listened well and gently invited me to lie down for 20 minutes. I didn't sleep, but it felt good to close my eyes (evidently giving permission to myself is not as helpful as hearing it from a loving friend). About ten minutes into stilling myself, I looked over to her and facetiously declared (about myself),

"She would have accomplished so much if she weren't so in love."

And there it was.

Love
in Love
so in Love...

My inability to focus - to "produce" and be creative was not so much from a block or a battle between "doing" and "being", but because I had spent much of the last month in love. In an instant I understood, "That's it...that's why I'm so tired."

Yes love rejuvenates and in the midst of encountering love either in giving or receiving, there is satiation and energizing that is beyond description. But, as in those early moments of falling in love where you you cannot get enough hours together with your beloved, there is an exhaustion that follows the encounters. Or when you're loving well by caring for a sick one, like I did for my dying Eddie cat a few weeks ago, you give up "normal" things and responsibilities to be present to the one you love. Between loving Eddie and responding to God's invitation to linger longer than "normal" in His presence, my everyday work and responsibilities have seemingly fallen by the wayside.  And as I pressure myself to catch up, I realize that perhaps catching up is not required. Being present to both the delights and depletion I feel from having encountered love is what is important.

I am in love and have lived well this past month ...and it has been astounding...and costly. There has been shed tears, neglected housework, canceled meetings, and the inability to create what is in my heart to share with the world. But I'd rather choose love - even when that means life looks less productive or organized or polished. Love changes the measuring...in love what is "normal" rarely has anything to do with how much I produce or get done in a day. Love measures how much of myself have I given to the present moment...whether that be in loving God, myself, or others.

Perhaps one day on my tombstone (if I have one - I'd rather have my ashes scattered in a lovely place) it will read,
"She would have accomplished so much if she wasn't so in love."

The world needs more lovers...how do you sense God inviting you to cultivate a life of love?

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